Earlier this week, Cardi B. and the City Girls released the video for their hit single, “Twerk”. I”ll post the video below if you haven’ t seen it yet, but I will warn you that it is not safe for work:
There is so much to love about this video - from the Black women of many shades to the virtual absence of men, creating a world where women can express themselves sexually simply for their own enjoyment, free from the male gaze. It also symbolizes putting twerking and twerk culture back into the hands of their rightful owner: Black women. For more on this last point, I highly recommend that you read my homegirl and former concert buddy Sesali Bowen’s piece over at Nylon.
One thing that stood out to me— and still does—-is how the conception of this video is a master class on seizing the moment and giving every opportunity all you’ve got.
“On November 9th, the City Girls sent out a challenge to the world. The goal… To find the world’s greatest Twerker.” This is the sentence that opens the video. To re-cap. the City Girls issued a challenge and they said that the top 25 winners of the twerk challenge would be, in their words, “Flewed out” to Miami.
The “Twerk” video is that outcome of that challenge. 25 Black women, the best twerkers in the world, seized this moment as their time to shine. They showed up, showed out, and got “flewed out.” And I think there is a lesson and some inspiration there.
At the beginning of 2018, began working with my now-boss. She asked me to work on a project, and I put my all into it. I took my chance. A year later, I’m working for her full time. That was my “flewed out.” I seized the moment and it served me well. Last year I said “yes” more often than “no,” and all the things I said yes to, I did so enthusiastically. I have no regrets about any of it. It all prepared me for where I am now.
Now that Cardi B. and the City Girls have led by example, I ask you this: what is your personal version of getting flewed out? How will you seize the moment today, this week, this month, and this entire year?
Don’t shy away from opportunity. Go after it fearlessly. Don’t worry about whether you are good enough, smart enough, educated enough. Don’t let impostor syndrome win this time. You have what it takes. Go ahead. Take a cue from the girls at Twerk Island. Apply for that job. Say yes to that speaking opportunity. Ask for that raise.
Let’s all get flewed out in 2019.